Date-ositelock? Opposite-date? Screw it, help?

"Poor_Sh" (ar4x) 06/16/2019 at 21:18 • Filed to: None

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I have what I think is a pretty good picture of me, close, high quality, big smile, nice shirt, and I’m in a bright red Miata. I want to use it for my dating profile but it’s not my car. It’s that gonna cause a problem?

Conversely I have the above picture, concrete proof I track my car, taken as I backed into my spot after the last session of a 3 day event. I think it’s also objectionably cool. But it doesn’t show me and maybe feels braggy in some way... Should this not be one of my pictures?

Btw, yes I know the demographic here lol but I think you'll still give a good data set.

Nibby > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:23

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take a selfie with a 1994 ford taurus wagon

you’ll thank me next week after the wedding

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:25

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Miata? Tinder or grinder?

/Old dumb joke is old and dumb

DipodomysDeserti > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:29

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Most people will probably just think you’re a weirdo who wears a helmet while driving and tapes shit to their car.

The Miata picture will be better, but probably depends on what sex you’re trying to attract.

I kid, I kid.

Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:31

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No. Don’t use a picture of you plus car. Use a puppy instead 

Just Jeepin' > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:32

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I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:33

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Nix the car pics entirely IMO

412GTI > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:33

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I’d go with the Miata one because it’s shows what you look like more and that’s what dating app users want to know. Especially if it’s the quick swipe ones.

Alfalfa > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:33

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Lucky for you, there was recently some actual data published that’s somewhat related to your dilemma

https://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/having-these-cars-in-your-dating-profile-could-benefit-your-love-life.html

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:36

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If you wish to attract guys, have pictures of you in or with a car.

If you wish to attract women, have a picture of you holding a cat or a puppy 

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Nibby 06/16/2019 at 21:37

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Nah... Dodge Grand Caravan!

Poor_Sh > Nibby 06/16/2019 at 21:37

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I can’t handle that much attention.

Poor_Sh > DipodomysDeserti 06/16/2019 at 21:38

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Yeah that’s probably right. Maybe it’s a filter to see if they track their car? A filter for the 99.99% of course

Poor_Sh > Just Jeepin' 06/16/2019 at 21:39

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What the hell? I was trying to leave my profile picture off this post!

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker 06/16/2019 at 21:39

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Clearly you wish to date him.

Problem is, you’re a guy.

Pictures of men with  cars tend to attract men much more than women

Poor_Sh > Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire 06/16/2019 at 21:39

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I ain’t got a puppy, and telling them you don’t have one when you’re in a picture with one is worse than not having one in the first place. Ask me how I know :)

CompactLuxuryFan > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:40

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Car pics repel everyone of every gender and orientation except auto enthusiasts. Unfortunately, we are few and far between. Dating someone who’s into cars would be super fun, though. Who’s gonna start that dating site?

Poor_Sh > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever 06/16/2019 at 21:40

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lol TBH I would bet there’s not more than 1 girl that would see the picture and guess the car. It’s cropped to just be a bright red convertible.

Just Jeepin' > CompactLuxuryFan 06/16/2019 at 21:41

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https://datemyride.com/

TheRealBicycleBuck > Nibby 06/16/2019 at 21:43

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Wagon? The new mom-mobile is an SUV. He’s be better off with a picture of an Explorer. 

Poor_Sh > Alfalfa 06/16/2019 at 21:44

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Haha yeah I saw that. Porsche is not mentioned however, neither is really this conundrum. I also dislike trying to force my profiles to attract people. Why lie if you’re doing to have to explain it later?

Nibby > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 06/16/2019 at 21:45

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has to be painted purple

Poor_Sh > Just Jeepin' 06/16/2019 at 21:46

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Wait... That's a joke website right?

Poor_Sh > I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker 06/16/2019 at 21:46

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Even if the car part is barely in it i.e. the Miata pic? I'm in the driver's seat and it's close cropped.

fhrblig > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:47

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Just post a pic of you listening intently, and then another of you washing  dishes.

Poor_Sh > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 06/16/2019 at 21:47

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Idk, is he cute? Have a cool car? Could be swayed...

Poor_Sh > 412GTI 06/16/2019 at 21:48

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True. Damn. But do you think I need a disclaimer it’s not mine?

Poor_Sh > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 06/16/2019 at 21:49

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I don't like to force my profile to attract people and then explain later that I don't have those pets,I just thought it would get me a date. But noted on the cars.

412GTI > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:50

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I don’t think it would hurt but also isn’t a huge deal if it’s left out.

smobgirl > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:51

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Most women won’t remember what car it was or notice that the one you’re driving is different. If they paid enough attention to ask in person, you’ve just learned something useful about them and they’ll probably accept your answer anyway.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Nibby 06/16/2019 at 21:51

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Just like my Honda Fit!

Poor_Sh > smobgirl 06/16/2019 at 21:53

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Good point. I had a picture in a C7 I rented and actually was asked why I pulled up in my previous mustang. But I think it was the red convertible vs black coupe.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:53

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Just tell them the puppy/cat in the picture is now dead and you’re sooooo heartbroken over it and how you could really use some cheering up... nudge nudge... wink wink... 

Poor_Sh > fhrblig 06/16/2019 at 21:54

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Sensually washing the dishes?

AestheticsInMotion > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:56

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Definitely do the Miata one if it shows you off in a way you like, and no need to say it isn’t yours. Most people won’t care, and if it is a car person you match with (it does happen believe it or not) that’s a good way to start a conversation. I would probably leave the track picture out, unless you’re using automotive enthusiasm as one of your main selling points, which again... I probably wouldn’t do. It’s a s mall demographic!

Depending on the site, photos will have to be cropped in a specific way, so make so they look alright after cropping. 

Poor_Sh > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 06/16/2019 at 21:58

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Lol I've heard that before too. I'll say the Miata died and I bought the Porsche out of heartbreak!

Spanfeller is a twat > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 21:59

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All dish washing is sensual .

Poor_Sh > AestheticsInMotion 06/16/2019 at 22:01

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Yeah I go back and forth with, "I'll just aim for the rare one I'll really want to meet." And then "Actually if they're just not an awful person that's fine." Seems like car enthusiast goals would be the former.

Poor_Sh > Spanfeller is a twat 06/16/2019 at 22:02

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Wow I have not  been doing it correctly all these years.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:05

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Is there any other way to wash dishes?

Spanfeller is a twat > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:08

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You mean, gently caressing the dishes while soaking them in mildly hot water and soap isn’t sensual? Getting to all of the crevices, and using pressured water to get rid of the muck isn’t sensual?

Yeah, you’ve been doing it wrong.

Poor_Sh > Spanfeller is a twat 06/16/2019 at 22:13

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Do you have a deep voice? You could definitely make a living off this talent. Ooh how do you clean your shower? ;)

Spanfeller is a twat > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:17

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I have been told I have a “radio host” voice but I’ve never actually tried it out for commercial purposes. 

Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:17

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Then don’t 

fhrblig > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:20

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I just wash them normally and apparently it makes me irresistible. Doing laundry and vacuuming have the same effect. I should add that you need to be doing these things without being prompted for maximum attractiveness.

Poor_Sh > Spanfeller is a twat 06/16/2019 at 22:24

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In Spanish would be a golden ticket for American middle-aged mothers.

Poor_Sh > fhrblig 06/16/2019 at 22:26

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I live alone in the house I just bought. Guess I just need pictures of me doing housework! I should have bought a house years ago

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:29

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The dead car story will only attract mostly guys.

Women will be like “so why were you driving an old POS like that anyway? ARE YOU POOR???”

You what I’ve learned women like in cars?

Heated seats that are leather.

Apparently women’s asses are perpetually cold and they like leather or “leather” because it doesn’t cause their skirts to ride up

If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:32

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It’s not like you’re advertising a Porsche and then showing up in a Miata. It’s the exact opposite. You won’t be disappointing any dates turning up in a better car th an expected. And if the question comes up, just say “Oh I’ve sold that Miata since the pic was taken”

Spanfeller is a twat > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:33

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Yeah, but Mexican Spanish isn’t sexy to Americans. Trust me, I know.

XJDano > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:34

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Sell yourself, not the car. If it’s a good photo of who you think you represent , choose it. Porsche, Ferrari, Masarrati, I don’t think a person on a dating app could tell the difference, except that those = money, and it may not be what you’re looking for anyway.

I know nothing about dating though as I chased and married my ex’s best friend.

I daily  drove a metro at the time and went on a few dates in it. 

Longtime Lurker > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:34

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It’s been known for centuries that home-ownership is an attractive quality.

Poor_Sh > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 06/16/2019 at 22:39

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Got it. Knew I'd get good data from this group!

Poor_Sh > If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent 06/16/2019 at 22:40

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That’s certainly true. Don't want to get any dates because they think better of me than they will in person, better to keep their standards low. Like mine. (Not really but it seemed funny)

Poor_Sh > Longtime Lurker 06/16/2019 at 22:41

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So, picture of me standing on the roof?

Snuze: Needs another Swede > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:42

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Counter point to all this - pic in Miata sounds fine since it sounds like its close cropped, emphasizing you, not the car. If it were like a glamor shot of you posing nex t to t he car I’d say no. I wouldn’t worry that it’s not your car. If its close cropped like you say, most people won’t know or care what kind of car it is. If someone does, and asks, tell the truth that it was a friends car and you just liked the pic a lot. Then you can say 2 things - first that you’re thinking of buying your own, and two, you can bring up your Porsche. The importance of the first part is it lays the groundwork for you to buy a Miata (or other car) later on in the relationship (assuming it pans out. T rust me, this is important, its like trading futures and buying junk bonds on the emotional stock market ). That plus the second part will also allow you to gauge her level of acceptance of your automotive hobbies. If you get things like “ oh cool, a convertible would be fun!” or “wow, you race a Porsche? Awesome!” then you’ve got a winner. If you get “Why would you need another car?” or “Racing is dumb!” then you know to excuse yourself to the restroom and ditch her with the check. (Kidding... but not really).

Speaking of the Porsche, I definitely wouldn’t use it as your lead in image unless you’re going for the unicorn (lady who likes racing). But I’d consider buring it further down your profile if you can have multiple pics.

Remember, d ating is all about being yourself. The more yourself you are up front the less you have to lie, and try to remember the lies, and then maintain the lies later. Because its that or try to ease them into the awful reality of what a shitty person you actually are. Neither option ends well. Trust me. :D

Poor_Sh > XJDano 06/16/2019 at 22:44

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Yeah that's why I think the Porsche at the track seemed braggy. But I wish I could show that I'm passionate about my hobbies in a way that wasn't off-putting. Or I have a shit personality and I'll have to play up the "fancy" car thing...

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 22:45

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My cars have generally scared potential mates. Like others said a dog or cat really shows off cuteness and responsibility. If said photo was taken in a sparkling clean kitchen while you are drinking green tea and reading the latest Jack Reacher novel you have a home run.

Poor_Sh > Spanfeller is a twat 06/16/2019 at 22:46

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If they can't tell a Miata from a Ferrari how can they tell the difference in dialects? We're dumb. Mostly don't even know there are dialect differences.

Poor_Sh > Snuze: Needs another Swede 06/16/2019 at 22:49

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That first part... You’re a genius. I definitely want a Miata track/autocross car later. I love that plan.

But I 100% agree with no lying in a dating profile which is why this is a dilemma. I wouldn't use either pic as my first or only but I guess it's easier to explain it's not my car but it's a good picture.

Poor_Sh > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 06/16/2019 at 22:51

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I’m definitely awful at this. My pictures are me in cool cars, playing guitar/bass/drums, or scuba diving or hiking. I might as well be looking for a new "bro" given who is actually interested in that.

Spanfeller is a twat > Poor_Sh 06/16/2019 at 23:02

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I mean, still.

Back to the dating app thing... I think I read once that people hate car pictures up in there. Because they automatically think you’re bragging. They don’t see that you’re a petrol head that does trackdays and that it was a big reason to invest in a Porsche... they only see a Porsche.

IF they can’t tell a Miata away from a Ferrari, it gets the same effect.

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Poor_Sh 06/17/2019 at 00:47

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Showing you have hobbies is fine but I’d keep them mainstream. I honestly don’t know what a mainstream hobby is tho...

Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever > Poor_Sh 06/17/2019 at 00:56

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Yeah, definitely don’t let a fancy (real or perceived) car brand get into your profile pic. Intimidating at best, off-putting at worst.  Most women are not car enthusiasts and will very likely get the wrong message.

I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker > Poor_Sh 06/17/2019 at 06:01

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My experience is that the one and only time a girl commented on my car in a profile was when she worked at a tuning shop and tried to sell me some suspension. However, I drive a shitbox Golf, so it make be different with a more recent Porsche. 

Snuze: Needs another Swede > Poor_Sh 06/17/2019 at 09:50

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You’re a genius.

I’m glad somebody around here recognizes it!

I’m old and missed easy app based dating, wh ich is probably for the best. So take my old guy advice with a grain of salt, I’ve been off the market for like 11 years now, I don’t know how the youngs do these days. I think most people are going to make a decision on whether or not they’d like to meet/ date you after the first couple pictures, so don’t overthink it.  Make the first few good, normal ones, then feel free to sprinkle in some cool ones if you like, I don’t think it’s going to hurt your chances.  

Tapas > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 06/17/2019 at 09:52

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I guess we can narrow down by removing the obvious.

D efinitely saving your pet’s nail clippings is not main stream.

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Snuze: Needs another Swede 06/17/2019 at 11:11

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“Remember, dating is all about being yourself.”

This can’t possibly be right  

CaptDale - is secretly British > Poor_Sh 06/17/2019 at 11:58

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I mean I’d go on a date with the auto crosser over the guy with the puppies, but then again this is Oppo

Poor_Sh > I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker 06/17/2019 at 12:20

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That’s hilarious lol

Snuze: Needs another Swede > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever 06/17/2019 at 14:40

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Well I generally view dating as having long term intentions.

If you’ re just looking to get lucky, be whoever you want /need  be.

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Snuze: Needs another Swede 06/17/2019 at 14:43

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lol.

I mean, I married the same girl I’ve dated since grade 11 ... so I have no expertise in the area at all

Snuze: Needs another Swede > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever 06/17/2019 at 15:15

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I dated my 11th grade sweetheart for 4 years. Then I became bitterly single for 2, then turned into a huge manslut for a year, then met Mrs Snuze and have been off the market for the last 11 years. So yeah, I dunno how the youths do it these days, but I assume some things are universally constant .